Many people do not consider consulting a professional counselor for advice until they encounter a relationship problem they can’t resolve. Perhaps they are having the same argument over and over. Perhaps they are in a tug-of-war with their partner’s family …
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A young married client recently lamented to me, “My spouse watches the same program on the laptop every night after we get into bed and it’s driving me crazy! Of course sometimes I can’t seem to stop using my smart …
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Being in a relationship with someone with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is often challenging and difficult, but it can be manageable if the person is correctly diagnosed and treated. If the condition is not appropriately labeled and understood, both …
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Sexual Addiction (see earlier article for definition) versus healthy sexual functioning is largely a management issue. The nature of human sexuality, whether it is managed effectively, or whether it is mismanaged to the degree of sexual addiction, requires us to negotiate …
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Recently, I was asked to comment for a televised interview regarding the topic of cell phone addiction. The reporter went “out on the streets” to interview people about their use of cell phones. It was almost humorous to see crowds of …
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In a perfect world, women and men would be single when they dated; and once married, would be exclusive with their spouse. However, the world is not perfect and many women find themselves involved with a married man. It is …
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Communication and conflict resolution skills are essential to healthy long lasting relationships. Here are a few tips for improving your skills. 1. Be aware of your feelings and know that you have the right to feel any feeling (boredom, hate, …
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Individuals who achieve optimum emotional health are willing to need others and to let others need them. Emotionally healthy individuals do not develop as a result of being alone. Individual well-being and positive self-esteem are developed within the context of …
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Couples who request professional counseling often bring with them to the first session various myths about the nature of conflict and how it should be managed in a serious relationship or marriage. Couples often are surprised that their relationship is …
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What has happened to the “sacrament of marriage”? Does anybody really mean it when they pledge, ‘for better, for worse, until death do us part’? Marriage appears to be a negotiable commodity in our society today. It is not uncommon …
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One of the most difficult situations that married couples confront is the possibility that one of them is having an affair. Most affairs involve a sexual relationship outside the marriage; however, just as difficult for some couples is dealing with …
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This is the first article of the Best Sex Series. These articles offer useful information concerning the psychological aspects of sexual functioning. It is anticipated that the individuals and couples who read and implement these ideas and strategies will benefit …
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This is the second article of the Best Sex Series. This series of articles offers useful information concerning the psychological aspects of sexual functioning. It is anticipated that the individuals and couples who understand and implement these ideas and strategies …
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Did the best sex you had with your husband or wife happen before you were married? If so, why? Many couples complain that after they married, their sex lives became infrequent, routine, or sometimes non-existent. This is particularly disconcerting when being …
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Do you know how to have great sex? Many couples aren’t sure what is okay to do in their sexual relationship. They want to please one another, but don’t quite know how. Couples ask,”Can I tell him what I like? …
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Low libido is one of the most difficult and challenging sexual dysfunctions. It is particularly difficult because the person with low libido is usually not highly motivated to participate in sex therapy. Most often, this person comes to therapy because …
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Personal boundaries define our edges. They create a space where we can feel, act, and genuinely be who we are. Boundaries provide important information to us as we make decisions about how to express ourselves with integrity and still remain …
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Dreaded words from one spouse to another…”I love you, but I’m not in love with you”. So, what are you supposed to think? How are you supposed to feel? How do you behave when your spouse says these words to …
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Extramarital affairs are not recommended. They lead to various kinds of trouble and intense emotional pain. Often, one party reacts (clinically) much like those who have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) following combat experiences, floods, earthquakes, and fires. However, in over twenty …
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“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.” This is the first article in a series entitled “Love is….” All of the articles are written in an effort to explore a variety of definitions and meanings of love. …
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When is the last time you really considered your loved one’s thoughts or feelings when you were making a decision that affected them? Most of us would like to view ourselves as considerate people, but what does it take to put …
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Have you ever had this happen…you are running very late getting home from work, and thinking as you are driving about what you are going to prepare for dinner. Did you remember to thaw something out before you left the house this …
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