Can’t Sleep?
Many of us have experienced those nights when we toss and turn in our beds hoping to find a position that will allow us to settle down and fall fast asleep. Sometimes, no matter how hard we press our eyes …
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Author Archives: Laura R. Meers, Ph.D.
Am I the Best Parent I Can Be?
Parenting your child can be a difficult, challenging, and often thankless task. Also, it can be rewarding and heartwarming. Most people who find themselves in the position of being a parent are not completely prepared for the overwhelming responsibility and …
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Marriage Counseling – VIDEO
Marriage Counseling Video
Performance Anxiety
Most of us have experienced performance anxiety in some form. In fact, there are a variety of situations in which we may experience performance anxiety; such as public speaking, sports, sex, entertainment, academics, social relationships, and career. In order to …
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Does Your Partner Have ADHD?
Being in a relationship with someone with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is often challenging and difficult, but it can be manageable if the person is correctly diagnosed and treated. If the condition is not appropriately labeled and understood, both …
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How to Care for Yourself While You Take Care of Your Aging Parent
Being a parent is no easy task, and assuming a parenting role with your own parent or parents is a tremendous challenge. But, many of us are currently in that role and learning “the hard way” how to navigate this …
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Is My Family Dysfunctional?
People laughingly talk about their”dysfunctional families” often in the same breath and with the same expression as they discuss what they just ate for lunch. It might be worth taking a look at what constitutes a dysfunctional family for purposes …
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Cell Phone Addiction: A Disconnection from Intimacy
Recently, I was asked to comment for a televised interview regarding the topic of cell phone addiction. The reporter went “out on the streets” to interview people about their use of cell phones. It was almost humorous to see crowds of …
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Cell Phone Addiction Interview – VIDEO
When Your Boyfriend is a Married Man
In a perfect world, women and men would be single when they dated; and once married, would be exclusive with their spouse. However, the world is not perfect and many women find themselves involved with a married man. It is …
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Enjoying Healthy Dependency
Individuals who achieve optimum emotional health are willing to need others and to let others need them. Emotionally healthy individuals do not develop as a result of being alone. Individual well-being and positive self-esteem are developed within the context of …
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Is Your Spouse Gay?
You married your best friend; and that was a good thing. You believed that becoming lovers would be easy since you were compatible in every way. As time moved forward, your friendship remained solid, but you never did become passionate …
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An Affair of the Heart
One of the most difficult situations that married couples confront is the possibility that one of them is having an affair. Most affairs involve a sexual relationship outside the marriage; however, just as difficult for some couples is dealing with …
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Let’s Have Sex—— Again!
Did the best sex you had with your husband or wife happen before you were married? If so, why? Many couples complain that after they married, their sex lives became infrequent, routine, or sometimes non-existent. This is particularly disconcerting when being …
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Is It OK To…(Learning How to Have Great Sex)
Do you know how to have great sex? Many couples aren’t sure what is okay to do in their sexual relationship. They want to please one another, but don’t quite know how. Couples ask,”Can I tell him what I like? …
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Low Libido
Low libido is one of the most difficult and challenging sexual dysfunctions. It is particularly difficult because the person with low libido is usually not highly motivated to participate in sex therapy. Most often, this person comes to therapy because …
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Oral Sex and Adolescents
There is increasing evidence that today’s teenagers are engaging in oral sex as a method of birth control. Some experts believe that this is actually contributing to a rise in the incidences of sexually transmitted diseases. The Center for Disease …
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Bullying: Is Your Daughter a “Mean Girl”?
There has been much talk (even a movie) generated over the last few years regarding groups of girls in middle and high school that victimize students who are not a part of their group. Usually these girls are lead by …
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Take the Panic out of Pandemic
Many articles are currently being written to address the present worldwide pandemic. I think it is important to look to reliable and factual sources for this information. We are surrounded by a kind of panic mentality in our nation; it is important …
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Stop Procrastinating——– NOW!
Procrastination is the enemy of success-oriented individuals. It has been demonstrated time and again that the ability to set and achieve goals effectively and efficiently is the hallmark of a success-oriented identity. Another well-researched and established premise is that people …
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Self Esteem: The Essence of Healthy Living
Positive self-esteem is essential to a healthy, normal life. If we lack positive self-esteem, we will have difficulty managing life’s challenges. In fact, everyday problems in living may seem overwhelming. When self-esteem is low the negatives in life seem to …
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Reduce Anxiety by Learning to Think Rationally
Are you a rational thinker? Most of us see ourselves as fairly rational. We believe that our thoughts are sensible and logical. While these attributes do contribute to thinking rationally, Dr. Maxie Maultsby, Jr. has developed a specific set of …
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Living with the Threat of Terrorism
On September 11, 2001 our nation suffered a terrible catastrophe when terrorists attacked us on our own soil. Since that day, we are no longer isolated from the evils of terrorism. Our daily living practices now involve precautions for our …
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Feeling Safe
Where do you feel safe? Is it in your home surrounded by all your familiar belongings? Is it with your family and old friends? Do you feel safe with your romantic partner? Or maybe you feel safe in a crowd …
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Have A Good Day
How many times each day does someone say to you, or you say to someone else, “have a good day”? In fact, this expression is so common that you may neglect to ask yourself if, indeed, you are truly having …
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How To Survive Embarrassment
Think of your most embarrassing moment. Now imagine replaying this moment over and over again several times. With each replay, the sting dulls; the embarrassment diminishes. Most embarrassing moments are short-lived. Yet, some individuals refuse to engage in new behaviors …
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Making Your Life Count
A common concern of many of my clients is that they want to have more meaning in their lives. There are countless examples of “high profile” individuals, i.e. athletes, movies stars, politicians, musicians (to name a few), who use their …
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I Love You… But I’m Not In Love With You
Dreaded words from one spouse to another…”I love you, but I’m not in love with you”. So, what are you supposed to think? How are you supposed to feel? How do you behave when your spouse says these words to …
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Love Is… Patience
“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.” This is the first article in a series entitled “Love is….” All of the articles are written in an effort to explore a variety of definitions and meanings of love. …
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Love Is… Being Considerate
When is the last time you really considered your loved one’s thoughts or feelings when you were making a decision that affected them? Most of us would like to view ourselves as considerate people, but what does it take to put …
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Love Is… Anticipating Your Partner’s Needs
Have you ever had this happen…you are running very late getting home from work, and thinking as you are driving about what you are going to prepare for dinner. Did you remember to thaw something out before you left the house this …
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Are You Eating Your Troubles Away?
Many of us handle stress and other negative emotions by eating. We may tell ourselves we are hungry, but most likely we are stressed, bored, depressed or some other emotion that we are trying to appease with food. We eat crunchy, …
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Situational Depression
Sometimes you just feel blue. Most of us can relate to this statement, because human beings have various moods that are not necessarily “diagnosable”. However, it may be extremely helpful to share your feelings with another person when you are …
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The Depths of Depression
I watched an interesting interview on a morning television program with a well-known actress sharing her lifetime battle with depression. She described quite a dramatic account of the effects of depression throughout her life. She described feelings of despair and …
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Postpartum Depression – When to Seek Help
About half of all women who have recently given birth experience a heightened state of emotions that are often defined as “baby blues”. This state only lasts for a few days to a couple of weeks after delivery. A woman …
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